HELLO 2020, Let’s Get weird.

At the start of the decade, I was in college with low self-esteem, bad eyebrows, and still in the grips of my awkward phase (which lasted from age 13-27.) I was afraid to be myself because I didn’t think that I could be.

FLASH FORWARD. It’s 2017, we waved goodbye to the Obama era, Kenan Thompson was his 105th year on SNL, and that white blinking guy meme dominated the internet. Best of times, meh of times as I worked for a groovy grant project that was about to get defunded. Maybe it was the political climate, maybe it was all the hardwon realizations of my mid-20s, but I was ready for a quarter-life crisis.

I finally made good on a promise to my teen self – I got the hell out of Tucson. In the last 3 years, I have been like David Carradine in Kung Fu if he wrote resumes and talked a lot about LinkedIn. Living in a dozen countries and growing freelance business, I finally got the confidence to wear hats despite my nagging fear that my head is oddly shaped. I also got the confidence to write fiction again.

It has been a crazy journey these last few years. And I am not letting up. The biggest ‘aha’ of the decade is that there are no standards, no one knows what they are doing, and the universe is random so hell, just chase your dreams.

HELLO 2020, let’s get weird.

Design Challenge Resources

Want to prepare for design challenges?

According to Ian Armstrong, Principal UX Designer, Dell EMC: “The design test isn’t about getting things right, it’s about showing your process. Don’t be afraid to do that. UX isn’t about having the solution, it’s about knowing how to get there.”

Why whiteboard exercises?

In addition to testing product thinking, whiteboard exercises are a great tool to test candidate against abilities like:

  • Communicating effectively with the team.
  • Thinking critically and asking good questions.
  • Handling feedback / constructive criticism.
  • Performance in a high-pressure environment on a new problem that has a looming deadline.

Whether this is the kind of person the team would like to collaborate with on a day-to-day basis.

(taken from  https://blog.prototypr.io/product-design-exercises-we-use-at-wework-interviews-2ee1f5a57319 )

Whiteboard Design Challenge Resources

Be Known in Your Industry… Even if You are a Brand New Career Changer!

You’re bright-eyed, passionate, and clutching a new certificate ready for a fresh start in your career. Then you join the hordes of other spunky career changers with their shiny certificates, polished portfolios, and perfect pitches on the job hunt.

Cue the slow slog through an indifferent job market, trying to find someone ready to take a chance on you, focused on that BIG BREAK!

I have been there! Establishing yourself in a new career can make you feel invisible. You don’t have connections, you’re still learning the ropes, and it seems like everyone else and their grandmother is competing against you for jobs.

This is where personal branding comes in. Your unique value proposition comes from you and what only you can provide for a company. Everyone has a UVP as an employee. Some people are better at marketing themselves- or just know more people. This can take years, but it doesn’t have to. There are some action steps that you can take to go from industry outsider to insider.

The major mindset issue that also hampers juniors in branding is that they see that first job as an end goal. Getting your first job in a new field is the beginning. Have a longer-term vision of what direction that you want to go into because your personal brand is a longer investment in your entire career, not just getting one job.

These aren’t just rehashed career witticisms. These are tactics that I have actively used to switch from library science to career services and now am using to build a personal brand under my pen name. I won’t go into the building blocks of a visual brand or building clarity on your goals, this is just how you can establish visibility in your new field.

Find where your peers are.

Putting up a website and tossing a new headline on your LinkedIn is not putting yourself out there. Neither is add your resume to ten thousand job boards. You must actually meet other humans. There is life outside your apartment as they say on Avenue Q.

Every industry has places they like to hang out, whether it is in slack communities online or in person brunches. Most professions have associations. Do you have an active chapter in your area? Check out meetup.com. If you can’t find through googling, ask on LinkedIn and use industry hashtags to boost the post’s visibility.

Think about how you like to network as well. If you are a chatroom maven, then focus your attention there. Research and test which communities that fit your vibe and your career goals best. This is where knowing your goals is key. If you want to be a freelancer, for instance, then look for an ambitious business minded group.

When I was establishing my career coaching business, I participated in a few courses which allowed me to not just meet peers but start growing their circles as well. Courses were helpful to my writing career as well. A scholarship is how I managed to attend a writing retreat that allowed me to make friends with a dozen friends who all were supportive and helpful to my goals- even to the point of promoting my books!

Be strategically visible.

Content is king, but you’re not Coca-Cola. You don’t need to be everywhere. You need to be in the relevant places. If you have done research and explored some networking options, then you already have figured out which suit your vibe best. Don’t overstretch yourself in the beginning. Start with one online and one offline group to join.

For career services, I found that LinkedIn was the place to meet people who are passionate about their career development. This is my primary place where I post content for my business. Posting too many places just left me feeling stretched and I could tell that it was wasted effort.

In my writing career, I found that Facebook is where it is at. I certainly know that I couldn’t promote my fantasy novels on LinkedIn. I researched top writing groups and readers groups to find the ones that were tailored to my goals (publishing urban fantasy). There are plenty of readers groups, but I am focusing on one group so I can be a active and engaging member. To network with other writers, I found a group that share the same ambitious mindset that I have. I am attending their annual conference because I know that it will solidify my connections made through the online community.

Add value to the dialogue.

Value, in this case, means actually contributing something to a community, its dialogue, and its members.

Networking leaves a bad taste because most people approach it with a ‘gimmie’ mindset. They don’t think about the fact that they are joining a community. Give before you ask for something in return. This doesn’t mean that you end LinkedIn messages with ‘tell me if I can help you in the future.’ Most of the time, you just have to give some attention and interest.

You know, be friendly? Human? Act like you are trying to be a positive member of a community. The thing that you usually do when you push the idea of ‘this is for my career’ out of your mind.

Before you ask that senior designer to look at your portfolio, comment on a few of their posts or have a conversation or two after the in-person meetup ends. Don’t be a stranger if you are going to ask for a favor.

You can have the same approach in an online forum. Post a few times with interesting articles, ask for member’s opinions on engaging topics, and comment on other posts. Then ask for a website review or promote your freelancing services.

If you are a content creator, think about what is interesting to your network and what you can share that adds to the industry conversation. Start with one type of content then move on. I have a long running career podcast and I also write blogs. I started with blogging before I moved onto the more challenging task of podcasting.

Don’t worry, you can also just participate in groups and attend meetups. Just think about how you can contribute first and ask second.

A disclaimer…

If you are an eager beaver like me (and chances are that you got moxie if you’re reading this), then you will want to do all the things!

*Cue the gif*


You can make your own luck!

The secret to luck isn’t rabbit’s feet, special hats, or rubbing a buddha belly. Blowing out a candle isn’t the only way to make a wish. People think of luck as a chaotic current in their lives, striking mysteriously. Fortune can be as random, but it can also be the logical consequence of habits and putting yourself out there. It only looks like magic from the outside.

Luck can be attracted through preparation and positioning. There are some people who always seem lucky in love, business, the arts, etc. It doesn’t matter if they are the neighbor who is always winning raffles or the college buddy who gets a promotion seemingly every quarter. The truth is that they aren’t just luck magnets, they are hunting for it. Life is a game that you have to play to win. You have to enter the raffle to get a prize, after all.

Lucky people just do more to invite luck. They plant seeds of possibility constantly. Instead of job hunting only when they are unemployed, they always have their eyes open and keep networking so they step from opportunity to opportunity. That is the trick about creating luck. It’s like keeping up a garden. It’s ongoing. You’ll plant seeds, water, and pull weeds even when you don’t want too. Lucky people keep pushing even after the pressure is off.


Because they know that the prep and positioning primes you for an opportunity, but you need still need to be agile enough to hop on it. That is usually a mindset issue. Opportunity is knocking, do you have the guts to answer?

Fear of success can sting as much as fear of failure.

The easy part of luck is that it can be broken down into small routine actions. The maddening thing about luck is the same. The daily grind of luck can get frustrating because you’re waiting and it strikes when it wants. Yet these positive actions add up. If you network then end up finding a job through a cold calling recruiter, it doesn’t mean that you wasted your efforts on building a network. That is still an asset where luck can emerge down the road.

There is a woke joke meme making the rounds in personal development groups asking if it’s manifesting or privilege. When I talk about luck, I do so with the understanding that everyone has different limitations. The general principle that prep + positioning + community = luck works for most, but some people have harder rows to hoe in their luck garden.

The more you become aware of luck, the more you realize that people get hit with opportunities all the time. These usually come from other people, but sometimes they are ideas, crucial knowledge, etc. We just fumble the catch or just flat out ignore the possibilities. It is critical that you begin to open your eyes or else you’ll miss your golden goose when it walks by. You train your opportunity spider-sense through positivity thinking and reframing situations with the idea that things don’t happen to you but for you. This will become reflexive so you can eventually find a silver lining in every cloud.

Ready to get lucky? I pasted a list of actions to boost your luck!

Summary: the secrets to luck…

👉 Prep and positioning, even when you’re comfortable

👉 Answer luck’s call

👉 Allowing yourself to see opportunities

Lucky Actions

Want to be luckier in your career and business? Here are your luck boosters. Keep in mind that luck is people generated so stack your squad with positive people who support you!

👉 Find meetup groups in your field to increase your industry friends

👉 Start an online portfolio challenge and share on LinkedIn

👉 Submit a workshop idea to a local conference

👉 Let friends know your career goals

👉 Enroll in an online course and actively participate with classmates and the teacher.

👉 Put your business card on a local bulletin board

👉 Answer an industry question on Quora and attach a link to your portfolio

👉 Submit your resume to a talent pool

👉 Volunteer for a professional organization

👉 Help a peer

👉 Freelance on a side hustle

👉 Follow your dreams


I am all about the high-level strategy when it comes to career development. I have links for days, a stack of business cards, a listing of tech meetups around the world, and more in my career compendium file. In one of my sessions, I can give a client a tailored plan on how to start dominating their field depending on their networking archetype, their content creation preferences, and intersecting interests. These sessions can be for brazen careerists, side hustle heroes, and freedom-minded entrepreneurs.

Want to go from zero to hero in your space?

Come out of nowhere, then end up seeming everywhere in your niche?

Let’s talk then.

HOWEVER, while I can craft a plan until the cows come home and then career counsel the cows, it’s up to the client to implement it.

As always, in all things, your results depend on you, boo boo. You are the only controllable factor after all.

Harsh but true observation: Most people don’t have much get up and go with the follow-through to match.

Note, I am not talking about people with health issues and other hard limits on their energy, career momentum, etc. I feel for those people and they aren’t the ones I am talking about so don’t get it twisted.

I am talking about the ones who know that they were made for more, can do more, but throw around excuses as their potential rots within.

I have been that person.

I wasted the bulk of my twenties before I realized that the clock was ticking. I kept waiting for my life to begin without understanding… it’s already begun!

Life is now. And now. And now. Time stretches on but a year can feel endless yet over in a snap when you are living in a rut, denying your potential, and smothering your dreams with a pillow of mediocrity.

If you are reading this then I have a feeling that you ready and raring to make things happen in your life. It feels like tough going, right? Implementation feels hard at a first. It’s like training for a marathon.

Maybe you have started projects then let them slide. Or maybe you have done a lot of research, took some notes, and then balked at step two. You might have even joined a networking group or a course then faded out after a week. This is pretty normal. Even the top mentored courses have a drop out rate higher than 30%. Starting is easy, follow-through is hard.

Truth is that it’s not lack of knowledge, support, or tech tools that holds most people back in their careers or businesses.

Its mindset and the ability to keep going when the roads get rocky, seas get choppy, and you feel lost in the wilderness. They also call this grit.

Mindset and grit are essentially shorthand for your ability to emotionally regulate yourself in response to stimuli and prime yourself for intentional action.

Motivation evolves.

Willpower needs frequent recharging.

Discipline takes time to develop.

Working on your mindset is how you can take the resources that you have and the strategy/knowledge that you have gained then run down your goal with them.

A healthy positive mindset is how you see yeses instead of nos. It’s how you find open doors among the closed. It’s how you accurately take stock of the hand you’ve been dealt instead of deciding to fold because it’s not a bunch of aces.

In Brazil, they have a word called jeitinho which means “to find a way.” It’s how you can look at what you have, what you don’t, then be a magician to conjure what you need. You can’t find a way if you aren’t looking for one. Grit is how you can keep your eyes on the horizon even if it is raining.

A gritty mindset can be honed over time. The best way to develop this for yourself is to keep your promises to yourself. You don’t have to say yes to everything, but if it matters to you (truly matters, know the differences between whims, wants, and needs) then commit to it. Don’t be that ‘one-day’ person.

My boy Yoda once said, Do or do not, there is no try. It’s true for the Jedis and its true for people.

The next thing that you can do is stop making excuses and pushing the blame for your failures, lack of trying, etc. You can’t find a solution when you are looking for excuses.

That was hard for me. I was educated enough to be able to develop a long list of societal limitations from the patriarchy to my finances that could/would hamper me. A lot on that list was true, but a lot could be overcome, planned for, or was just BS of my own making. Know the difference. A real barrier to success can be strategized around. Mental blocks need to be pulled out.

A third important step is to mind your own business, stay in your own lane, and quit sipping the haterade as you judge others. Jealousy ain’t cute, honey.

I know because I have been that hater and I caught a glimpse in the mirror.

The grass is greener where you water it.

Remember that when you are looking over at your neighbor’s yard, assuming that they must have had some advantages that made them get ahead. Some of the most accomplished people have hidden traumas, hardships, and struggles that they don’t wear on their sleeves. If you are in the States and reading this, keep in mind that almost 44% of all U.S. Fortune 500 Companies in 2018 were founded by immigrants or their children aka people who started on the bottom and worked their way up to the top.

Always be aware that the ‘overnight’ success that triggers your green-eyed monster probably hustled for years to make that ascendance seem effortless.

There is enough success to go around. Your unique vision of success can’t be the same as another’s. You’re not chasing after the same prize even if you are in the same industry. Even for business owners, your clients will be attracted to working with you because you are you.

Focus on you, boo, and what you’re serving up. Unless someone is hiring you, working with you, supporting you, or helping you grow, they don’t concern you.

Discipline, grit, and mindset along with a clear aligned goal will get you far in this world. It’s up to you to decide where you want to go then build a strategy to get there.


After five years of being a career coach and over two running my own online business, I have a different perspective on careers, personal branding, and the nature of work. I have advised hundreds of people, maybe over a thousand, through job hunts, graduations, and career changes from homeless teens to VPs. There is one piece of advice that I have given that is universal.

Think like a freelancer.

If you act like you are a mercenary in the job market, then you have an edge on your competition. Most people are asleep at the wheel when it comes to their jobs.

I see it in the web developers who stop updating their githubs, the manager who stops networking, the professional who stops going to conferences, the designer who lets their portfolio domain expire, etc. They get a job and think the battle is over.

Oh, you sweet summer child.

As a Kardashian would say, I can’t EVEN.

Maybe it’s because I grew up working class with five siblings and had a job and a side hustle by sixteen. 

Maybe it’s because I graduated in a town that never recovered after the Great Recession. 

Maybe it’s because I have had a few jobs lost from budget cuts and company failures.

But I believe that your resume should always be updated, your portfolio fresh, and your network alive.

This is how you maintain a recession-proof career. I have had people complain about this philosophy and say that I am drinking the kool-aid with the hustle culture. Cue a giant eye roll.

It’s not that hard to take an hour every few weeks to do an industry happy hour or five minutes to add a bullet point to your resume when you get a promotion. Its easier than a giant to-do list when you need to job hunt again.

You should be primed for opportunities. This is why some people seem lucky. It’s not luck, they were just ready when someone opened a door for them. Not every door opens again.

And yes, sometimes you will need to HUSTLE when the door opens!

Right now, I am knee-deep in a few projects because I am taking most of September off. Unexpectedly I received a scholarship to do a writing retreat with a best selling self-publishing author (who also has a Ph.D. in Literature). I have a few manuscripts under my belt. They need polishing. It’s a big task and yeah, it has cut into the socializing that I could be doing this summer. However, how many times would I get a chance to write in a French castle with my writing mentor and nearly a dozen published authors?

This is a golden opportunity so I came to the mountains of Bulgaria and settled into a writing-editing groove. Sure, I have gone to the hot springs, had a friend visit, etc, but I also have said no to outings and yes to working harder on some business projects to give me the space to take September off. I am making my self-imposed deadlines.

This opportunity also came to me because I was networking online, took a book marketing course for professional development, and I was fresh in the retreat host’s mind. There were four people who couldn’t accept the scholarship before the hosts thought of me. If I had decided that I was employed, had enough clients, and didn’t need any more of that book learnin’ then this wouldn’t have happened.

Why would it have? You have to put your hand out if you are going to catch something.

It was a golden opportunity but it wasn’t perfect.

September is a busy month for career coaches, I had only a month left on my Schengen Visa, and I was looking at rearranging lots of things. However, I know that writers who do this retreat end up with finished manuscripts, in Forbes, and with their book marketing plans plotted out. It’s a blend of learning the craft and learning the business which very few programs actually teach you. Golden opportunities will find their way to you in inconvenient times and in guises that you might not expect.

Be flexible. Opportunity knocks, but maybe it sounds like a Mariachi band.

Waiting doesn’t help anyone. I have seen friends in the business space sit on courses/services/ideas and find that the moment had passed. The market has moved on. I have seen that happen with job seekers all the time. They see their dream job and procrastinate until it closes. The door closed.

You don’t need to have regrets about missing opportunities when you are ready for them.


The power of positive thinking has been selling books for decades, pushing clicks, is responsible for Tony Robbins and some people are sick of it. The backlash against the positivity does rage in medium articles, forums, and blog around the net. I get it.

Especially after encountering some life coaches who preach the equivalent of sticking your head in the sand to keep your vibe high. Sometimes it feels hard to be positive. We have all seen the news articles.

  • July was the hottest month in human record.
  • You can’t go to a mall without a kevlar vest in the US.
  • There is a turtle somewhere with a plastic straw stuck in its nose.

The neighborhood has really gone downhill.

But, as a former history major, I ask you, was the neighborhood that great, to begin with? We are the species that brought the world Genghis Khan, the Triangle Slave Trade, and World World 1. Humans have always been a real mixed bag.

The universe is pretty chaotic and who knows what will happen next? I am hoping that some white hat hacker cancels all the student loans and Ben and Jerry’s ice cream falls from the sky, personally.

There is a middle ground between smoking a cigarette declaring the god is dead and being a Pollyanna with your fingers in your ears. You can have realistic expectations and still be reasonably positive.

To quote an underrated Joss Whedon show, ‘if nothing we do matters then all that matters is what we do.’

Your life is now. You have been given blessings and opportunities that few in history have gotten by virtue of being born in the computer age. What will you do with it?

Sure, you will probably fail at stuff, your projects might turn out to be harder than you expected, and someone online might say something mean to you. Trolls gotta troll.

I don’t know, call me what you want, but that has never seemed like a good reason to sink your dreams. Failure is a byproduct of trying. It shouldn’t be a deterrent because regrets are worse.

I grew up in retirement town, surrounded by the elderly and I never met one who said, I should have shrunken my goals and did less with my life.

Life is a Choose Your Own Adventure experience. We’re all trapped here and we aren’t taking anything with us when we go. You might as well live it up while you can.

I don’t say these things because my path has been easy, I say this because I have gone through hard times.

Reality can bite. Big deal. Sack up and go for it anyway.

Be a dreamer. Chase your goals, forge a new path for yourself, dance to the beat of your own drum. If you have the moxie and the wit, you might not hit every target you aim for, but you’ll hit more than you think. It’s better than realizing that you existed for decades and never really lived.

Choose your own adventure and live a life where you can say that you did it your way!


In a recent podcast interview, I was asked a time travel question on what decision I would have changed when it comes to finances. It was easy for me to say that I would have changed signing a lease with a romantic partner too soon. That decision snowballed and was compounded by external job losses due to budget cuts then the end of that relationship caused the implosion of my life structures, routines, etc.

My stable life as a mild-mannered librarian who craved stability had been turned upside down.

Essentially the universe kicked my ass.

Cue quarter-life crisis.

Everything changed and I realized that I needed to start over.

I found myself changing my people, places, and things. I started working as a career specialist for an inner-city drop-in space. I moved in with my best friend. I discovered personal development. I also did all the things that I wanted but couldn’t due to dress codes so I got an undercut hairstyle, pierced my nose, and dyed pink streaks in my hair.

Delayed hair rebellion, I guess.

It was hard to start over but that clean slate was what gave me space in my life to start a remote business and begin my journey as a digital nomad.

That kick in the pants got me out of the door.

Would I have stopped listening to the digital nomad podcasts and actually have done it without the booty kick?

I don’t know. I doubt it.

I was like Bilbo Baggins in the Hobbit. I would have stayed in my Hobbit-y comfort zone without that push to go on the adventure of my life.

I wouldn’t have gotten the chance to live and travel in over a dozen countries, meet fabulous people, have speaking engagements on three continents, and make a difference in the careers of tech professionals around the world.

When the bad, the inconvenient, the unexpected happens, we naturally focus on what the losses were instead of thinking of what we can now put in its place.

Sure, there are plenty of terrible events that can’t be reframed, I get that. You can’t Pollyanna everything in life. HOWEVER, there are silver linings of a lot of events when you look for them.

Life is easier when you regroup and look for the next step instead of looking back with regret. We can either think that things happen to us or that things happen for us.

The choice is yours!


Imagine that I am writing out a permission slip for you. It looks just the like ones from your school days except instead of your teacher’s neat penmanship, it’s my lazy hieroglyphics-looking scrawl.

It says, I, Sami Gardner give you the permission to suck at stuff.

Now fold up that piece of paper and put it in your pocket to save for a rainy day.

Why did I give you an imaginary permission slip?

Because if you are like many of my clients, you’re smart and probably pretty good at most of the things that you try.

You didn’t have to try that hard in school and got good grades anyway. At work, you are one of the quicker ones on the uptake. Even with hobbies and crafts, you get the hang of it without much of a struggle. You have fully embraced the idea of leaning in.

That is fantastic… except for when you actually have to try.

And that scares the HELL-o Kitty out of many high achievers even if they don’t admit it.

Job hunts, career change, and intentional designing your career and business are pursuits where you will always be on the failure-success roller coaster.

I have had so many clients where they subconsciously have this idea that if the job isn’t perfect then it’s not done. Or if they can’t do it perfectly then they shouldn’t do it at all.

FYI, perfection is a subjective illusion. Some people think that Hamlet is perfect, other people think that Twilight is perfect. Takes all kinds in this world, pal.

This focus on perfect and being good at something in one go is the most limiting of beliefs because it ignores a basic reality.

You have to push past the ‘I suck at this’ stage to get good at something. That learning curve can be longer than you want. Not everything will be a snap to understand and then do.

There are so many inspirational memes, embroidered pillows, and wall hangings that talk about how delightful going outside your comfort zone is. Dance outside your comfort zone, girlfriend!

Let’s be real, it can feel like you are dancing on nails out there.

Outside your comfort zone can be scary, awkward, annoying, frustrating, and embarrassing. It can be exhilarating but it can also make you want to run back to your comfort zone where it is soft, cozy, and familiar.

I have had to jump out of my comfort zone today. I sent off a piece of fiction to a beta reader and I feel like hyperventilating into a bag in between sips of wine. The running monologue in my head going along the lines of ‘oh, god, what if they hate it? What if it sucks? What if I suck? Waughugh.’

That last bit is just the sound I make in my head when I am nervous.

And in September I am going to take a running leap out of my comfort zone because I am going to France next month for a writing retreat. Even beyond the idea that other people will read my stuff (‘Waughugh’), I am terrified because I know that I am in for a lot of socially awkward moments due to the fact that languages are my kryptonite. My French is nonexistent.

I don’t even speak English well at times.

You know what, I will definitely suck at both French and writing at times. I am new to both. So, it’s to be expected.

I can’t get better at either unless I go through the sucking phase. I always probably will sacre blow at French too.

Yet we can’t get more comfortable with new activities, cultures, or subjects unless we give it a go!

The biggest reason for this isn’t because we are skill-building… its because we actually see how it is and how it was easier than what we built it up in our mind.

Humans are natural drama queens especially if we are smart and imaginative because we hyper analyze our situations. We don’t just make a mountain, we make the Himalayas out of molehills. Once you finally just do a thing, we take the mystery and inject reality into the situation which usually is that we didn’t suck that bad and if we did then no one really noticed.

The truth about the world is that most people are too focused on themselves to pay much attention to you. The rest of us are too busy navel-gazing or didn’t realize that you have even made a mistake whether it is with a UX Case Study or a hula hoop trick.

You’re the one who is hyper-aware of your faults.

Life is liberating once you understand that one fact.

So get outside of your comfort zone and as RuPaul says, prance my queens!


Around the ‘net, I am the queen of designing your best life and career using practical strategies and accessible mindset techniques.

This morning at the coworking space, I was the queen of the sullen glare over my coffee cup.

Confession: I didn’t want to write my blog today.

I had some ideas written down like letting go of identities/stories that don’t serve you or how to write a cover letter that doesn’t suck. None of the topics were gelling even after I did my morning journaling.

Why? I woke up with a litany of aches, complaints, and whines. Nothing major, just that ennui that can set in on a Wednesday morning after a night of poor sleep and sciatic pain. It just made me really want to turn off the laptop and watch TV in bed today. And I might do that for a little bit.

But only after I write this blog.

Creating daily content is one of the commitments that I have made to myself. Writing is fuel for my soul. This is actually stuff that I enjoy… but Merciful Zeus, some mornings, not even a gallon of coffee feels like it is going to wake me up.

Before someone counsels me about my work habits, I have proper breaks, I only work part-time, and I spend most of the year traveling the world. I even indulged last Friday at a Bulgarian spa so I have my self-care on point.

I am all about the mindset work, but…

It doesn’t mean that you don’t wake up feeling ‘blah’ sometimes. It’s normal, it’s healthy, and even the most Namaste life coach has dealt with it.

I will give you the advice that I gave to myself today: PULL ON YOUR BIG GIRL PANTS AND DO THE THING.

I say this because I know these feels. DEEPLY.

During the writing of this blog, I found myself derailed by a few fires from having to book a ticket before this random European holiday rockets the prices up, figure out a train schedule, and discovered that my favorite social media tool has crapped out before the big launch of my Unknown to Hired Challenge… all while the coworking space wifi has been hit and miss. And my laptop battery died. OH JOY.

Its minor stuff, but this the minor BS that keeps you from taking that intention, direct action that leads to accomplishing your goals. A bad five minutes leads to a bad hour which leads to a bad day and so on and so forth until you wake up a year later wondering when you are actually going to DO THE THING that you said you would.

What is the cure?

If nothing is actually wrong, but you just don’t feel like taking the action that leads to you achieving your dream…


Giddy up and go, cowboy, because the only way that you get over the blahs is to push through them.

I put out the fires and got back to this blog because I made that commitment to myself. If I don’t make sure to do my daily content, you might not notice, my gentle social media reader, but I will and more importantly, my subconscious will notice. You get confidence by doing, you gain faith in yourself by believing in yourself, it’s hard to believe in yourself if you can’t keep a promise to yourself. It doesn’t matter if the goal is to drink more water or to find a new job, you have to take action to get the results that you want.

No one pops out of the earth an Elon Musk, an Oprah, or a JK Rowling. Each one of them has taken direct actions to get to where they wanted to go. Writers have to write to finish a book. Job seekers have to do send in their resume to get a job. Your daily actions will change as your goals evolve, yet consistency will always be important.

It doesn’t matter if you are a creative and the muse isn’t with you. If you want to court your muse, flow, whatever you want to call it, you have to show up consistently so inspiration can find you. This is the same for any pursuit.

You aren’t just taking action. You’re building up muscle memory, proving to yourself that you keep your promises, all the while you are keeping your focus sharp on the project/goal/dream. It doesn’t matter if it is just 10 minutes a day and you just knock off one intentional action off the list, you are still making progress. Don’t forget to prioritize between a ‘need to do’ and a ‘want to do’ because the busy work is what burns you out! Understand which are the intentional actions that you need to take to achieve your goal and then do them.

We all have that one thing that we are avoiding, that action that we need to take to get the result that we want whether that it a fitness class, a phone call, or a blog entry.

My hope is that today, you take aligned action to bring you one step closer to your goals!